Not so long ago, sitting in a cafe in Paris, quietly passing time with Olivier, a long-time friend, he told me a little story… He recounted that story:
Very soon after I moved to Paris for work, I found myself sitting alone at a café. My coffee had gone cold. I had no book, no laptop, and no friend on the way. I wasn’t doing anything at all — just occupying a chair for no good reason.”he said,
And somehow, it felt completely normal.”
Olivier continued: “Around me, life moved, with what I now know to be, that soft Parisian hum: a man folding his newspaper; two students sharing a silence that didn’t need filling; an older woman watching the street as if it were a play written just for her; a waiter balancing too many glasses with impossible grace. No one seemed lonely. No one seemed rushed. No one seemed to need a reason to be there.”
Olivier said that it struck him because if this café had been in the UK, Australia, or the US, where he’d come from:
I would have felt obliged to perform something. Read. Work. Scroll. At the very least, order another coffee to justify my existence.”
But in Paris, simply being there was enough.”
And yet I keep thinking about what this moment really reveals.
Because cafés in France are never just cafés. They are part of something larger — a way of being in the world that doesn’t quite translate.
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